Monday, March 23, 2009

Parent Teacher Conferences

Sometimes I just don't know what to do with them... Conferences were last week. It wasn't too bad. More than anything it was exhausting. Two sessions that ran about 2 hours each, and twenty something parents... I was so exhausted that I left depressed. Such a different experience from my Midwest conferences.
  • Had a few conferences with parents who don't speak English (that happens in some places in the Midwest, just not something I had experienced). The language barrier makes communication so difficult for us. So often I find myself wishing I would have acquired Spanish through college.
  • Parents asking two young children-less women for parenting advice. I came prepared this time. Told a few parents to take away privileges (those things the kids are using as excuses for not doing homework... TV in particular). I was very adamant. I would have never taken that stance with parents of last year's students. They would have thought I'd crossed the line. This year, I feel like some of these parents have let their kids do what they please to the point of no control. One parent was proud of herself for following through with a 4 day punishment. She usually lets her student off within the day.
  • A while back, we were even offered money from a student in trade for a good report. Laughable. The parent laughed about it. We also confirmed that the student had been forging the parent's signature. These kids....
  • Some of the parents told the same stories as we heard last set of conferences... I guess some things never change. Interesting when they go on and on about how bad their student is at home, when they aren't a problem at school. Not really sure how to respond to that information, other than try to encourage the student to behave at home...
  • A few parents showed their violent sides. Threatening to beat their children, cursing them right in front of us (the F-bomb took me by surprise a few times!). We'll be keeping our eyes on those kids for any scratches and bruises. I was a bit scared of this violence. Sadly, it seems to be a norm with this community.
  • Got in trouble for asking for supplies... Got them anyway. What's a teacher to do when students seem to eat pencils daily? (Wish I knew the hidden hole these pencils get hidden in, because I'd love to discover the mounds that must be collecting somewhere. That or they literally eat them.) Students have to write, right? Then again, this is me asking a question that seems to make sense, when I work in a place that does the opposite of anything that makes sense!
My team teacher did an amazing job with conferences. She really knows how to word things with the parents!! It really is wonderful having two teachers!

3 comments:

Grammatically Delicious Designs said...

Sometimes I think it would be so nice to have a team teacher. Then, I fear that I would scare the crap out of him/her. I have a tendency to be a little intimidating. If you e-mail me your address at grammaticallydelicious@yahoo.com, my students would be happy to donate some pencils to your classroom. They get such a kick out of contacting schools that are far away and different than our own. I think it is their way of traveling. Some of them have never been more than two hours from our tiny town in ND. Sad, but true.

Danielle

Independent Educator said...

knowing HOW to word something to a parent is so important. you learn so much from each conference, and the ones where the parent gets that realization, good or bad, about their student is always memorable. and hey, at least the violent parents cared enough to come out to meet you...

Teacher said...

Very true Independent Educator. Very True!